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I found myself on the pavement….

16 Mar
a small family

a small family

Yesterday was the Cape Town Carnival.

We are lucky in that we live on the main road and can simply pop downstairs and plonk ourselves on the grass to watch. After a hellish week of double shifts I was exhausted and wanted nothing more than to climb into bed and zone out. Unfortunately my youngest was sparking with delight at the thought of the carnival so we decided to hit the local shop for snacks.

On the way there I noticed another mom, about my age, sitting alone on the side of the road with her young son. They had found themselves a quiet spot in the chaos and had taken a few bricks and made little seats to watch the show. In the middle of the laughter and partying here was a little family sitting all alone, content, but all alone.

As we walked towards them the mom looked at me and then at my daughter and smiled, and I smiled back. She looked as exhausted as I felt, and they looked as alone as we were. In a world of busy, I had stumbled across myself.

I had been recently told that my daughter and I spend all our time together and that it’s unhealthy. I was told to get a life, make new friends, get out more etc, etc. but looking at this mommy, I knew if we spoke, such things wouldn’t even come up.

In an ideal life, there’s a mom and a dad, siblings, pets and a house with a white picket fence. For single mothers, life is a bit different. We work till we drop, trying to keep our kids fed and cared for. We lose touch with friends because we have no particular time or energy or even interest in such pursuits. Everything we do, we do alone. It’s very seldom by choice, we simply do the best we can with what we have.

It is perhaps not the healthiest situation, but it’s certainly better than the adultery, abuse or neglect that forced us into these solitary lives in the first place.

Being a single parent is the hardest thing in the world.

For those of you that are tempted to criticize – DON’T!

Until you have walked in our shoes you have no idea of the sacrifice, the strength and the passion that it takes to ensure that your children are cared for.

If you feel overwhelmed by the need to express your views to a single mom, make sure you include an offer to babysit or an invitation to a nice barbecue. After all if you consider that you know better, you should also be prepared to do better.

And to all the single moms out there – keep doing the best you can for your babies. Don’t be bowed down by the cruelty of the ignorant. Continue being brave and true, your children will benefit in the end and that’s all that matters.

and to my own personal detractors……………..

BITE ME!!!

 

 

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5 Comments

Posted by on March 16, 2014 in Strings of Sentences

 

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5 responses to “I found myself on the pavement….

  1. theforestscribe

    March 17, 2014 at 5:56 am

    there’s unity in community, and a helping hand is far better than a critical comment

     
  2. Johnny Ojanpera

    March 16, 2014 at 10:14 pm

    I applaud you Miss Elizabeth. I have played the role of both parents for many years despite not being single, with four daughters, and though I have not felt the stigma of single mothers, I know the hard work and solitude it can bring. Your life is heroic. 🙂

     
    • theforestscribe

      March 17, 2014 at 5:57 am

      well actually it’s often more comedic than heroic but I get your drift – thanks muchly hehehe!

       
  3. quiall

    March 16, 2014 at 11:54 am

    The strongest people in the world are mothers. The hardest job in the world in being a mother. Never let another tell you differently: MOTHER’S KNOW BEST!

     
    • theforestscribe

      March 17, 2014 at 5:55 am

      agreed, but also know that parenting requires a group effort to be most effective. I would like to see a greater sense of community taking hold – critisism breeds anger, unity breeds strength!

       

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